Separate Yourself From What Happened.

You are not your worst decision.

“You did then what you knew how to do, and when you knew better, you did better.” — Maya Angelou

Hey Reset Fam,

Can we talk about impostor syndrome for a second?

Not the version where you feel unqualified for a job. The version that takes a bad decision you made and turns it into evidence of who you are as a person.

“You made a mistake. Therefore you ARE a mistake.”

That’s the lie impostor syndrome tells. It takes our decisions, our missteps, our hardest moments, and attaches them to our identity. We stop saying I made a bad decision and start saying I am bad. We stop saying I got that wrong and start saying I am wrong.

That shift is subtle but dangerous and is where impostor syndrome lives.

But it’s not the truth. And today we’re calling it out.

Here’s what I want you to remember:

Every decision you have ever made was made with the information, the tools, and the version of yourself that existed in that moment. You were doing the best you could with what you had. That’s not an excuse, that’s the truth.

You were a beginner once. In relationships. In your career. In knowing yourself. And beginners make beginner decisions. That doesn’t make you a bad person. It makes you human.

So the question isn’t: why did I make that decision? The question is: now that I know better, what am I going to do differently?

Because knowing better is only half of it. Doing better is where the real growth lives. And you don’t get there by staying in the shame spiral. You get there by staying curious. By looking at every decision — good or bad — and asking yourself: what does this teach me? How do I grow from here? How do I make a more aligned decision next time?

That’s not failure. That’s evolution.

Here’s your reset this week:

Examine a recent decision. Major or minor. And ask yourself:

Did it feel aligned? Did your gut say yes, even if others said no? Did you override yourself to keep the peace? Do you regret it or does the regret belong to someone else’s expectations?

If you stayed true to yourself, even if it upset someone, that was a good decision. Alignment over approval. Every single time.

And if it didn’t feel right? That’s not failure. That’s your inner compass recalibrating. Listen to it next time.

You are not your worst decision. You are not your biggest mistake. You are not the moments where you didn’t know better.

You are the person who keeps showing up. Who keeps learning. Who keeps choosing to do better when better becomes available.

That’s not impostor syndrome. That’s growth. And it looks good on you.

Come grow with us in Queer.Reset — a safe space where we share our journey and celebrate every step forward: https://www.skool.com/queerclarity-5386

1% better everyday.

With intention,

✨ Les (they/them)

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